Comments on: The gratuitous insult – how do you respond? http://www.dr-smith.info/the-gratuitous-insult-%e2%80%93-how-do-you-respond/ Turnaround Management, Senior Adviser, Board Member, Executive Coach, Author, Speaker, Radio & TV Guest & Panel Member Fri, 09 Jul 2010 16:07:56 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Dr. Earl R. Smith II http://www.dr-smith.info/the-gratuitous-insult-%e2%80%93-how-do-you-respond/comment-page-8/#comment-13924 Dr. Earl R. Smith II Fri, 02 Jul 2010 02:04:17 +0000 http://www.dr-smith.info/?p=348#comment-13924 Some times you have to just move on and pick your battles wisely. All posts have given good advice but how much is your time worth is how I look at it. Posted by David Lubert Some times you have to just move on and pick your battles wisely. All posts have given good advice but how much is your time worth is how I look at it.
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]]> By: Dr. Earl R. Smith II http://www.dr-smith.info/the-gratuitous-insult-%e2%80%93-how-do-you-respond/comment-page-8/#comment-13917 Dr. Earl R. Smith II Thu, 01 Jul 2010 00:58:36 +0000 http://www.dr-smith.info/?p=348#comment-13917 Hi Doc Welcome to the internet. Congratulations! You have found an opponent. its called 'e-rage', while searching you out to antagonize you would be 'trolling'. Conversations with your opponent serve as a way to pass time, Feel free to 'squelch' or 'ignore' unworthy opponents... or engage your e-nemy whenever you're up for a little intellectual chess or feel like blowing off steam. I find resorting to 'Mom' jokes are productive in those situations... The net sure brings out the Id! Mayhap that Freud dude was on to something. In summary, have fun with it, or ignore it. Cheers! Posted by Ari Kasday Hi Doc

Welcome to the internet. Congratulations! You have found an opponent.

its called ‘e-rage’, while searching you out to antagonize you would be ‘trolling’.

Conversations with your opponent serve as a way to pass time, Feel free to ‘squelch’ or ‘ignore’ unworthy opponents… or engage your e-nemy whenever you’re up for a little intellectual chess or feel like blowing off steam.

I find resorting to ‘Mom’ jokes are productive in those situations…

The net sure brings out the Id! Mayhap that Freud dude was on to something.

In summary, have fun with it, or ignore it.

Cheers!
Posted by Ari Kasday

]]> By: Dr. Earl R. Smith II http://www.dr-smith.info/the-gratuitous-insult-%e2%80%93-how-do-you-respond/comment-page-8/#comment-13916 Dr. Earl R. Smith II Thu, 01 Jul 2010 00:58:08 +0000 http://www.dr-smith.info/?p=348#comment-13916 Earl, it depends on your real motive - to assuage the umbrage you took at the comments made or the education that the perpetrator needs in other people's feelings. Alas, you can't do both with any clarity but ceasing any further communication with the individual will send a message. Posted by Andrew White Earl, it depends on your real motive – to assuage the umbrage you took at the comments made or the education that the perpetrator needs in other people’s feelings. Alas, you can’t do both with any clarity but ceasing any further communication with the individual will send a message.
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]]> By: Dr. Earl R. Smith II http://www.dr-smith.info/the-gratuitous-insult-%e2%80%93-how-do-you-respond/comment-page-8/#comment-13915 Dr. Earl R. Smith II Thu, 01 Jul 2010 00:57:35 +0000 http://www.dr-smith.info/?p=348#comment-13915 Gratuitous insults can be met with generous silence. To forgive is divine. Posted by John Bowman Gratuitous insults can be met with generous silence. To forgive is divine.
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]]> By: Dr. Earl R. Smith II http://www.dr-smith.info/the-gratuitous-insult-%e2%80%93-how-do-you-respond/comment-page-8/#comment-13914 Dr. Earl R. Smith II Thu, 01 Jul 2010 00:57:00 +0000 http://www.dr-smith.info/?p=348#comment-13914 Drod, I love your response. I agree re the narcissism and "shadows of people" is perfect! I certainly know a couple of those. "When science discovers the center of the universe a lot of people will be disappointed to find they are not it." - Bernard Baily Posted by Pam Witzig Drod, I love your response. I agree re the narcissism and “shadows of people” is perfect! I certainly know a couple of those.

“When science discovers the center of the universe a lot of people will be disappointed to find they are not it.” – Bernard Baily
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]]> By: Dr. Earl R. Smith II http://www.dr-smith.info/the-gratuitous-insult-%e2%80%93-how-do-you-respond/comment-page-8/#comment-13913 Dr. Earl R. Smith II Thu, 01 Jul 2010 00:56:26 +0000 http://www.dr-smith.info/?p=348#comment-13913 Great discussion, depending on the circumstance involved, what I have done and usually do when that occurs (thankfully not too often) I ask directly what was meant by the statement? Normally the person is embarrased and will back track not wanting to appear so small minded. Either way, someone said life is too short to deal with mean spirited people, something to that effect. I agree but sometimes you have to deal with the situation at hand, but If you lay down and get stepped on, you will get stepped on again. I just dont put up with it at all... Posted by Seth Block Great discussion, depending on the circumstance involved, what I have done and usually do when that occurs (thankfully not too often) I ask directly what was meant by the statement? Normally the person is embarrased and will back track not wanting to appear so small minded.
Either way, someone said life is too short to deal with mean spirited people, something to that effect. I agree but sometimes you have to deal with the situation at hand, but If you lay down and get stepped on, you will get stepped on again. I just dont put up with it at all…
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]]> By: Dr. Earl R. Smith II http://www.dr-smith.info/the-gratuitous-insult-%e2%80%93-how-do-you-respond/comment-page-8/#comment-13912 Dr. Earl R. Smith II Thu, 01 Jul 2010 00:49:59 +0000 http://www.dr-smith.info/?p=348#comment-13912 If a person gives me a gratuitous insult then a gratuitous prayer - up for their interpertation - seems a fair response. (BTW - my prayer would be and Lord, that person today....thy will be done) Posted by Joye Chizek If a person gives me a gratuitous insult then a gratuitous prayer – up for their interpertation – seems a fair response. (BTW – my prayer would be and Lord, that person today….thy will be done)
Posted by Joye Chizek

]]> By: Dr. Earl R. Smith II http://www.dr-smith.info/the-gratuitous-insult-%e2%80%93-how-do-you-respond/comment-page-8/#comment-13911 Dr. Earl R. Smith II Thu, 01 Jul 2010 00:49:26 +0000 http://www.dr-smith.info/?p=348#comment-13911 Joye, Since you are not saying what exactly you will be praying for, your reply might sound mildly scary. :-) Sam. Posted by Sam Steingold Joye,
Since you are not saying what exactly you will be praying for, your reply might sound mildly scary. :-)
Sam.
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]]> By: Dr. Earl R. Smith II http://www.dr-smith.info/the-gratuitous-insult-%e2%80%93-how-do-you-respond/comment-page-8/#comment-13910 Dr. Earl R. Smith II Thu, 01 Jul 2010 00:48:54 +0000 http://www.dr-smith.info/?p=348#comment-13910 I usually just tell them I'd include them in my prayers. Posted by Joye Chizek I usually just tell them I’d include them in my prayers.
Posted by Joye Chizek

]]> By: Dr. Earl R. Smith II http://www.dr-smith.info/the-gratuitous-insult-%e2%80%93-how-do-you-respond/comment-page-8/#comment-13907 Dr. Earl R. Smith II Wed, 30 Jun 2010 14:42:19 +0000 http://www.dr-smith.info/?p=348#comment-13907 linkedin.comBill, It is a gift to receive the unvarnished truth. It is a talent to receive it well. Both are necessary. It is a calling to both tell the truth and remain respectful of those present and not present to the conversation. For a different spin on the importance of civility and respect check out WalkingBear's discussion on the group Bear Essence. His reflections on the recent dismissal of General McChrystal give some thoughts on professional discourse ( http://www.linkedin.com/groups?gid=3130673&trk=myg_ugrp_ovr ). Ed Posted by Edward Souza linkedin.comBill,
It is a gift to receive the unvarnished truth. It is a talent to receive it well. Both are necessary. It is a calling to both tell the truth and remain respectful of those present and not present to the conversation.

For a different spin on the importance of civility and respect check out WalkingBear’s discussion on the group Bear Essence. His reflections on the recent dismissal of General McChrystal give some thoughts on professional discourse ( http://www.linkedin.com/groups?gid=3130673&trk=myg_ugrp_ovr ).

Ed
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